THE BEST IS YET TO COME…
Divorce and relationship breakdown can feel completely overwhelming. I'm here to help you find clarity, build resilience and start to envisage new beginnings.
About Me
Abigail Elias
I began working life as a primary school teacher, working in schools in both the UK and New York. I became inspired and motivated by teaching in more holistic environments, and developed an interest in pastoral care and emotional development.
After spending time focused on nurturing and raising my three children, and experiencing traumatic life changes, I realised that therapeutic coaching is incredibly powerful. I trained with Barefoot Coaching and am thriving on being able to help others to experience transformative life changes.
COACHING & MY APPROACH
“Coaching is eavesdropping in on someone’s thinking process.”
B Kriegel
COACHING & MY APPROACH
After personally experiencing both therapy and coaching, I emerged stronger, with a new zest for life that I didn’t know was possible.
I strongly believe that combining therapeutic and holistic approaches with coaching theories helps me to create lasting and life changing results.
Often, my clients come to me without knowing what is it that they actually want to change, and why they are experiencing certain emotions. Through my gentle, supportive and thought provoking guidance, we work together to establish what’s really going on and how to move forward.
As your mindset coach, my aim is to listen deeply and to create a non-directive, collaborative approach that will help you to work towards shifting your mindset and achieving tangible goals.
WHY COACHING?
WHERE NOW? WHAT NEXT? HOW WILL I GET THERE?
Does it feel all too easy to throw up your hands in despair when faced with decisions and change? Do you feel immobilised by stress and emotion? With powerful questioning and deep reflection, together we create a space that enables you to make brave decisions and shift behaviours that may have been deeply embedded for many years. I will help you to see new perspectives and we work together to break down barriers that may be stopping change from happening.
AREAS I WORK WITH
As a specialist relationship and divorce coach, the majority of my work focuses on supporting people through separation, divorce, co-parenting and the rebuilding that follows. I also work with clients on relationships, grief, anxiety and confidence.
Divorce & Separation
Going through a divorce or separation is one of life's hardest experiences. I work closely with clients to create clarity of thought at a time when it can feel impossible to think straight, helping you manage overwhelm, navigate the practical and legal process, and begin to rebuild your emotional strength. I work alongside lawyers and legal teams to support well-considered decision making, and provide a safe, non-judgemental space to process the grief, stress and exhaustion that comes with it.
Relationships
No two relationships are the same. I support clients through the early stages of new relationships, as well as the emotional blockages and patterns that are holding them back. Whether you're re-entering dating after divorce or working through something in an existing relationship, this is a chance to reboot, reset and approach things with a fresh sense of self.
Co-Parenting After Divorce
I work with clients looking to find a way to see past their emotional and financial conflicts with their ex partners. We work towards creating a path that enables the interests of the children to be central to decisions, and ongoing communication and contact. We work closely together to establish how change can occur and what might be possible for the sake of your children – and you. Your children deserve to feel safe, stable and loved. Co-parenting can feel triggering and tiring and I help my clients to remain child focused, creating new dynamics as your new family set up evolves.
Co-parenting can feel triggering and tiring and I help my clients to remain child focused, creating new dynamics as your new family set up evolves.
Post Divorce Recovery
Divorce trauma does not end the day that you get your Decree Nisi and emotional support is often amazingly beneficial afterwards. I work alongside my clients from any stage of divorce or separation until the point at which they are ready to move forward. Navigating the waves of your new way of life can be exhilarating, but also hugely fear inducing and overwhelming. I coach my clients to establish how they want their new situation to look and feel, and together, we create a fresh outlook and approach to their new reality.
Grief & Loss
Having undertaken further coaching training in grief and loss, I decided to explore this area in more depth. I have worked with clients experiencing grief not solely through bereavement – but also through job losses, endings of relationships and friendships, and illness. Trauma sits in our bodies often for long periods of time, and starting the process of unblocking and examining this can be enlightening and relieving as life moves on.
Crises of Confidence
“Just because you think it, doesn’t mean it’s true”
(Albert Ellis)
A wobble here and there can lead to an increasing lack of self confidence. My clients often come to me as these feelings begin to impact their personal and working lives. Together we work on a profound level to establish where these barriers stem from, and start to let go and create the confidence that they deserve to have.